I haven't posted in awhile about our wonderful lil Ju...
WHY???
A while back just after his birthday we had an issue with him and I wasn't sure I should write about it...
as I got to thinking about it, Julian is a cute kid but he is also a human 'little' being. Getting into situations that he creates himself that are not so pleasant. Right after Christmas break he began to tell us that he was being bullied in school... I confronted his teacher about it and they said they would take care of it. I left it alone in full understanding that the teacher would take care of the whole thing.
a week later, he comes to me again and tells me of stuff the boys were doing to him. Now mind you, Julian is not a small child, and can hurt someone if he thought about it. But he is only 8 and thinks as an 8 year old. It doesn't matter how large or small the other boys were, it was really bothering and scaring him.
I went to the teacher a second time and they told me that they had spoken to him and the other boys. They thought it stopped and didn't know it was still happening.
I'm really trying to make this short... lol
Next thing I know two teachers came to my classroom (me working at the same school, Ju goes too) and began to tell me that he had made up the whole story about being bullied.
WHAT?!?!
They also began to tell me that "Julian was scared of his father" and was making this up because he thought that is what his father wanted to hear... (making me feel that it was his fathers fault) Now you better believe it stirred up some heat in me. I knew that Julian as any other kid was very respectful of his father and sometimes watched his step around him, but by no means was Julian afraid of his father!! I felt they were passing the buck of who was really responsible here of the situation... I became extremely upset and didn't like the feelings I was getting.
When we got home I had a very long talk with Julian. I wanted the truth here... he began to tell me "he made it all up" I couldn't believe my ears, he stirred up soo much emotion. Now I didn't know who to believe. When it was time for bed, I tucked him in and he and we began to pray. We ask the Lord to help us solve this issue and that the truth be known... because I still didn't know who or what to believe. I was very disturbed and he cried.
We decided to have a parent teacher conference with all the teachers. I didn't want them to think Danny was such a horrible father, I couldn't believe that was Julian's words or the way he felt about his father.
Danny and I had a long talk with all the teachers. We were all on the defence about this whole situation. Julian really made this out to be a huge ordeal, lol
YES!!!
He was lying about the whole thing or misunderstood about how the other children were treating him. We could not believe it!!!
'Our lil Ju, lied!!??'
Yes, he did... for some reason in his little 8 year old brain he decided to make a small situation with some boys bigger than it was to the point that he was being bullied.
so this whole ordeal made me think up of the children's story by:
'Marjorie Weinman Sharmat - A Big Fat Enormous Lie'
"A child's simple lie grows to enormous proportions in a form of a monster"
'For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.'
1 Corinthians 14:33
I believe when we prayed it help Julian to come forth with the truth and an understanding of what was really happening with him and his peers. Helping him to realize this was getting way out of hand for even him. He had lost control of the situation when we (his parents) and the teachers decided to have this conference. I thank God we are able to go to HIM for all things, even little situations as this...
AMAZING!!
